(photograph © Kiwidutch)
You know I love everyday, normal stuff, ideas that are ingeniously simple, full of common sense and practical.
Out one day when I needed the lavatory and end up finding this total gem of an idea, literally “in the loo”.
Seriously, you can’t get more everyday or ordinary than in the smallest room in the house.
In fact I got so excited about this find that I completely forgot where I saw it (but am busy rattling my brain cells, that information is in here somewhere.) So, to the point (eventually)… what was I so excited about?
Well, It’s a loo seat within a loo seat. One size for adult derrieres and one size to fit the average small child: more importantly, perfect for the child undergoing the toilet training phase.
First, let us all remember the dark and hidden fact that all parents never ever forget the time that their children went though “that stage”. Mostly we wished it would have been less messy, with less tantrums and fewer traumas (ours, not theirs) and had taken literally been over in no time at all.
Like many families, we went though several trial runs, moments appeared when our kids appeared ready to make the leap from nappies (diapers) to using a toilet, and like most parents we also discovered that on these occasions the kid had other ideas. After reading books on every method under the sun we settled on an age old favourite: bribery.
A jar of small jar of Smarties (sweets similar to chocolate filled M & M’s) went on to the dining table. Kid could score the grand total of one Smartie for every successful toilet event.
Note the word “successful”. With Kiwi Daughter we left that word out and the result was that she went and parked herself on the potty, doing nothing except demanding the reward, then getting up and repeating the experience two minutes later.
Generally what actually happens is that kids experiment with the “idea” of not using nappies, but are not ready to commit to a permanent switch until far later on. They get their parents hopes up by seeming interested, but reality is that parents are the salespeople desperately pitching the toilet experience as a new and wonderful event. The kid asks all the right questions, lets us use all of the tricks up our sleeves, lets us talk-the-talk, taking all of our time and energy, …before nonchalantly walking away from the deal.
In our family one of our experiments involved kids in the warmest summer months dressed in nothing but t-shirts and little toddler knickers, playing on the wooden living room floors with the potty “conveniently” parked in sight and a multitude of little reminders, until the inevitable happened: the puddle on the floor. The simple fact is that kids get so wrapped up in playing the they simply forget, and once it’s too late, it’s too late.
Then came the transition from the plastic potty to the actual toilet. Also a fraught time because for a small child the hole in that seat looks mighty large, and they know that what ever falls inside gets flushed away. Little wonder they are afraid and cling on to you for dear life. Even if at home you can have all the success you want with the familiar plastic potty, outside the home it’s back to the terror that the “big toilet” invokes, and it’s not practical to bring a large plastic potty with you everywhere.
Our children “played” with the idea of toilet training at ages two and again at three, no matter what we tried we were unsuccessful, then suddenly at three and a half they found their magic moment, indicated that they didn’t want their nappies ever again and were dry day and night in a week. Each had two or three “accidents” after that, but then that was it, everything perfect since. Somewhere there is a little switch that triggers when they are ready and once they are truly ready it all just falls into place. Making it easier for them to use an adult toilet after this is the icing on the cake. I know that for many parents there are long struggles, especially with night time bed wetting so I know that with both our kids we got off lightly, but who knows how soon they might have been ready if the right equipment had been available for them to use, especially outside of the home?
What I discovered on this day was the perfect solution, an additional toddler toilet seat, hinged into the main one, deployed by simply lowering it into place, removed by raising it up again. Why have adults not been smart enough to think of this amazing solution decades ago? I hope that slowly but surely you could find this as “standard” in every convenience: in all restaurants, kid friendly places, public buildings and any and everywhere that families with toddler might be. For long term environmental reasons, for simple “bog standard” common sense and for the sanity of parents everywhere… let’s try and make toilet training easier for kids.
(photograph © Kiwidutch)